Teen fights removal of bullet in head
Quote: "Tammie Bush, the teen's mother, disputed allegations her son is a gang member. 'We know he's not a criminal," she said. "He's a good kid.'"
Why do mothers seem to always deny that their sons are out there gangbanging? I think the statement above is very telling. She desperately wants to believe that he is a "good kid." And the thing is, many of these guys out there gangbanging are "good" kids caught up in a search for identity that leads them into all sorts of problems. People just like me, longing to feel valuable and loved. But moms, its time to wake up. If your son is out all night, hangs out with gangbangers, and cocks his hat to the right or left, it is often just a matter of time. Watch him, he'll start cocking his hat accidentally before he even turns out.
When we lived on 38th and Sac there was a single mom in our building who refused to believe her son was Two-Six. The whole neighborhood knew it except for her.
posted by Chaddo 12/22/2006 05:43:00 AM
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why do mothers seem to deny??
facing the fact that one's son is involved in gangs, drugging or any kind of evil is excuciatingly painful to the mother and thats why she turns a blind eye. does that mother have ANY tools, ANY way of dealing w/the truth abt her son? probably not.
if she challenges him, what will happen? will she alienate him, anger him, and drive him out of the house and into even further involvement in gangs or violence?
challenging her son means she also has to face her own problems...problems that she already feels powerless to change. its not an excuse, but it is the reason a mother can blind herself to the truth.
she may feel fatalistic, depressed, and again, not know what to do.
if she's low income, she's probably stressed financially.
if her husband is abusive or cheating or not there, she's probably not paying full attention to the son.
if she works full time one or two jobs, she's not around and when she is around she's tired to the bone.
if she doesn't know Jesus, she's got no hope, no relief, no prayer.
when one of my sons was acting out, someone said to me "how can you let your son do that?" "let!!!!!!" i said, "let is not the operative word. i'm not letting him. he's choosing this. not me.
you say moms "wake up". these moms know in their heart of hearts. but if they think abt it long and hard, they know they are clueless abt making him stop. if there is help for moms like you describe, tell these moms. you've got real grace and wisdom in this area, and favor as well.
you know all this.... i sense your frustration w/moms here. but the flip side is that boys become independant, dominant and resist the mom's intervention. i know you have a solution.
facing the fact that one's son is involved in gangs, drugging or any kind of evil is excuciatingly painful to the mother and thats why she turns a blind eye. does that mother have ANY tools, ANY way of dealing w/the truth abt her son? probably not.
if she challenges him, what will happen? will she alienate him, anger him, and drive him out of the house and into even further involvement in gangs or violence?
challenging her son means she also has to face her own problems...problems that she already feels powerless to change. its not an excuse, but it is the reason a mother can blind herself to the truth.
she may feel fatalistic, depressed, and again, not know what to do.
if she's low income, she's probably stressed financially.
if her husband is abusive or cheating or not there, she's probably not paying full attention to the son.
if she works full time one or two jobs, she's not around and when she is around she's tired to the bone.
if she doesn't know Jesus, she's got no hope, no relief, no prayer.
when one of my sons was acting out, someone said to me "how can you let your son do that?" "let!!!!!!" i said, "let is not the operative word. i'm not letting him. he's choosing this. not me.
you say moms "wake up". these moms know in their heart of hearts. but if they think abt it long and hard, they know they are clueless abt making him stop. if there is help for moms like you describe, tell these moms. you've got real grace and wisdom in this area, and favor as well.
you know all this.... i sense your frustration w/moms here. but the flip side is that boys become independant, dominant and resist the mom's intervention. i know you have a solution.
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What bites is that we can't say, Where the hell are the dads? We need papas!
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